Expecting the Unexpected

Yesterday, my friend gave me something to ponder about. Being alone vs being lonely.

I know that i'm kind of a lone ranger person, because i find it is more tolerable for me to do what I want to do, without having to menyusahkan anyone. Like, i like going to a random and cheap trips alone because some of my friends might not be comfortable with the way i do things bcz i'm a very independent person. Despite all that, i don't fancy being lonely, i guess nobody does..

So, i scrolled through the link that my friend shared to me via WhatsApp, and it was only just scanning through the articles because i might have a big idea of what the writer wanted to say.  So i asked my friend back;

Why does he feels lonely?

At some point of our lives, we will feel this kind of loneliness, and it's actually part of signs of maturity. You take some time to just know yourself better, because you only have you. Why bother asking people to judge you when you could actually judge yourself and reflect about it. Try to improve those imperfections that you have and focus more on developing those qualities that you want as a person.

For my friend here, it was another thing. I asked him how does he mingles around his friends, and he told me that he prefers to put on his earphone, scrolling his phone when he was together with his friend. This is what i don't like about having a smart phone. You dive into the virtual world without having to actually appreciate the reality in front, and the end of the day, you just feel alone because you thought that your world only revolves around you. As if that you are the centre of the uniberse.

There is a lot of things to be grateful about in this world, and being lonely is one of the thing that we should be grateful for. Me myself feel lonely at some points of my life, but i take it like Allah is giving me a time off from the people around me so that i could focus on myself. It's like, you are isolating yourself from the people around and started to look things on a different perspective. For example, your friends. How would you survive this cruel world without them? You have a home to miss everyday while you are away, you have a reason to smile even if it was only because of a lame joke. These are the little things that we should really be grateful of.

Do know that Allah set you up in that loneliness is for you to reflect and to be grateful more with you currently have and had.

But if you are feeling too lonely and depressed, do get some help. Because it might be from a pathological cause.

Well, what do you expect from a girl that took pills just to keep herself happy?

❤